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Why New Year’s resolutions don’t work

Every single year people wait until that post Christmas and New Year period to suddenly make certain changes to their lifestyle, when they have had all year to do it. 

Coaches and lifestyle guru’s right around the world are adopting the need to make ‘realistic’ resolutions and offering all kinds of ways to stay on track with them.

Not us at 4D.

Let’s be honest, it’s pretty pointless waiting all year to decide on one or two things that you kind of or sort of want to stop doing, but you know full well you’re not really committed to following through with anyway.

The large majority of resolutions are all about what you think you shouldn’t do. Stop smoking? Cut out sugar? Stop drinking alcohol? More work/life balance?

These all sound good on the surface, but typically a resolution is based on what you think you should be doing, rather than what you really want to be doing.

Too often, resolutions are decided upon by looking at other peoples expectations or by reading a magazine that tells you how to ‘get fit by summer’.

It is all nonsense; forget about what you or other people think you should be doing and look at what you really want.

Some resolutions are like goals in that they’re about getting more of something. 

The problem is that as soon as you set yourself a goal you’re saying to yourself that you want more in your life than you have right now. The very nature of goals make you look forwards at what’s next, never at what you’ve got right now.

Goals have the tendency to make you feel less-than, because there’s something you don’t have now that you aspire to have in the future. Goals introduce a gap between where you are and where you’d like to be, which instantly makes part of where you are right now a place you don’t want to be. This is how the very nature of having goals can hurt your self-confidence and self-esteem if they are not achieved. 

People tend to think they need to set themselves goals to see things happen, but that’s missing the point. Show me a goal-hungry person and I’ll show you someone who’s always wanting something better to come along, someone who’s convinced, albeit perhaps not consciously, that reaching their goals will lead to their happiness. Even if that person reaches a goal it’s all too likely that it lacks meaning and personal relevance, and so the hunt for meaning, relevance and happiness goes on.

Once you reach a goal, what’s next? Gotta have another goal. Then another, then another. When do you get to stop and just enjoy life right where you are?

The real value is in the experience, not in the end result.

At 4DFit we look for wins and aim to keep the losses at a minimum. Every single day we want you to achieve that winning feeling.

Over a third of resolutions don’t make it past January and over three quarters are abandoned soon after.
The reason?…No commitment.

The problem is that you’re taking something that doesn’t mean anything to you and trying to make it happen. Resolutions lack a foundation of meaning and personal relevance that makes sure they run out of steam.This is because they are things you think you should be doing because of your social or working environment and others around you. 

Sure, you might get an initial burst of motivation that gets you started, but that never lasts. Motivation is like the big rocket boosters on the space shuttle; it gives you an initial spurt of energy to get up and get moving, but it’s just not sustainable.

What you need is something more fundamental, more central and more important to you. What you need is something that comes from the inside, something that’s based on what’s important and what matters to you. That’s the only way to get behind it, have confidence in it and keep the motivation and commitment going.

Not only are you coming off the back of the festive period and getting back to the harsh realities of everyday life, but you see the whole of the year stretching ahead of you and Summer is a whole 6 months away.
And what kind of person waits all year to make a choice about something anyway?  Why wait for one particular day to make a decision, when there are 364 other equally great decision making days available to you?

Living a full life isn’t about making some vague, half-hearted decisions once a year, that don’t really mean anything. That’s not what truly confident people do.

Instead, make confident choices based on what really matters to you, and jump in with both feet.

 

Believe in the process and enjoy the journey.
Team 4D Fit

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